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Who should be discriminated? Or I just need to learn to be more tolerant?  

2005-08-21 05:33:14|  分类: 默认分类 |  标签: |举报 |字号 订阅

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“One of my friends, she has such a broad knowledge about ……”I said.

“Is she a woman?” (In Chinese SHE and HE has the same pronunciation in speaking language)

“Yes, but ……”I tried to say more.

“Ha woman, they……”Some other man stopped me.

Then several men started to talk about what they think about woman, some woman they had bad experience with and sex..

 

I had this kind of similar experience so many times and I’m taking it pretty well since they are just some ordinary men I barely know.

 

But today, during the supper we (several good friends) had after the dancing show we went together, it went like this:

 

“Once there was dancing show in Banana (an outdated club in Beijing), the leading male dancer is so good and his body is amazing…… (This is the part really impressed me)”

 

“Oh, that black guy you mentioned thousands of times?” A man interrupted who went to Banana with me that time.

“Oh, black?” Another young boy jumped in.

Since then, they went on and on like this:

“Sure, black is ……”

“Yeah, they are comparatively more energetic sexually……”

“Yes and their size ……”

…….

 

It was becoming so annoying to me. Inside of me, I became so fury and really want to kick them out of table. I know I was irrational to be angry at that. It’s just a normal chat between friends and people like to talk something related to sex.

 

But I do feel I’m disparaged in two different ways.

First of all, I was just talking about how great is the dancer’s body looks and his dancing. To me anybody's body could be beautiful no matter what his color is. But my point is totally ignored and the topic went all the way directly to how big the size is of his certain part. Seems human's body is not the most beautiful creature in the world anymore, only thing matters is the thing attached to the body. About the black, only things is deserved to be talked about is that solely part. (Like the woman, their only function is to have sex with. If they create more trouble, they are bad bad bad.......)

 

On the other hand, how could two of my close friends still talk in that way after I repeated again and again about my hatred to chauvinism and racism? They might think I’m naive or pretentious, but at least could try to be considerate as friends.

 

Maybe I just need to accept the truth that most of the time the TAG is much more important than the PEOPLE who you really are. And I also need to accept the fact that I will live for my whole life with two “non-prioritized” tags. One is woman and the other is Asian.

 

But given my stubbornness, that’s not something likely to be happening. So before anyone talk to me next time, he or she must give the definition and opinion of these two tags above first. If you think the woman is less good than man or Asian is less good than any other species of the man kind, there is no common base we could reach any agreement logically. And given my other characteristic, aggressiveness, there might be some serious damage. Certainly a crime is not a price I’m ready to pay for myself or anyone else’s arrogance.

 

Let’s make it clear and keep it safe.

 

2005-8-21  

 

P.S. A famous psychologist once said:  if give me a dozen healthy orphans and some special environment needed to educate them, I will guarantee that I can train anyone of them who is randomly selected to any kind of person such as doctor, lawyer, artist, successful business man, beggar or criminal no matter their talents, tendency, capability or professions and species of their parents. (Translated from Chinese version)

 

A friend of mine who is Chinese now lives in Australia said to me:

“The SARS should kill more people so the people with bad health or low quality will be filtrated and the Chinese as a species will be better.”

“Why most of the Chinese men are short, bad dressed, bad manner while those Caucasian are tall and descent.”

I told him the first opinion is very Nazism and second is lack of consideration of many factors like the richness, education, food structure, weather…… Giving the consideration that most of the grownups Chinese had a non plenitudinous childhood during, I sort of convinced him it’s not something really to do with the race but other things. we all know lots of Chinese immigrants they are much taller than their parents only take one generation with the improvement of their family’s income and the adjust of the food structure.

 

The other one (an old classmate from primary school and haven’t contacted forever) is totally unbearable. After he went to South Africa, he left a message on the chat room for classmates that is: “White chic are pretty and black chic are pretty too. Chinese girl should kill themselves if compare to them. What’s a waste to live? Kill yourself! So the environment will not be polluted and the next generation will become better.” Maybe he is having a digestion problem with the food there. I don’t know and don’t even care, just wish him the best there.

 

2005-8-21 

 

 

We human being eats anything we could like pork, beef, chicken, fish...... We won't vomit because we think they are animals the spices different from and lower than us. If we dare to think any other kind of man kind is lower than us, it will be possible for us to do anything we want to them, like we did to other animals, like what we did to slaves in the ancient time, like what the Japanese or Nazi did during the World War II.

  

As an old Chinese saying: Don't give others what you don't want. We often take it very offensives when some foreigners sitting next table talk like: Oh, those Chinese ….... We think they are stupid, arrogant, bad educated, so should we talk about others like that? 

 

2005-8-22

 

The whole thing reminds me a story I read from a book written by a Japanese author about Japan's invasion to China. It's told by a Japanese soldier about some of his true experience during the invasion of Japan to China. His supervisor raped and killed all the Chinese females he saw. Until one day when he tried to rape a young woman, she begged him to stop in Japanese and told him she’s from Japan. Since then, he lost his ability of erection.

Someone outraged and slaughtered Chinese woman became impotence after he realized he tried to do the same thing to a Japanese woman  of his own kind. The author thinks it shows how the Japanese soldier and crowed treat Chinese as inferior.

To me, it’s such a dangerous way of thinking that others are inferior to us. It basically entitled us to do any horrible thing we could to others.

 

2005-8-22

 

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